Published in Mind Cafe·PinnedMember-onlyAre You A Hammer Looking For A Nail?It might be time to figure out if you’re the tool. — I don’t start arguments. In fact, I barely have the stomach for a heated debate. It’s just not me. Which explains why I find the person who has a real hankering for hot, verbal entanglements so off-putting. Let’s refer to them as hammers. The worst part about this tool is…Life4 min readLife4 min read
Published in Mind Cafe·PinnedMember-onlyHow the Broken Windows Theory Can Apply to Your LifeWhat you see, matters. — The broken windows theory, defined in 1982 by social scientists James Wilson and George Kelling, drawing on earlier research by Stanford University psychologist Philip Zimbardo, argues that no matter how rich or poor a neighborhood, one broken window would soon lead to many more windows being broken. In essence, broken…Life5 min readLife5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Aug 20, 2022Member-only“Just Being Honest” Is A Clever Disguise For Being a BullyI see you, bully. — Public Service Announcement: Honesty isn’t the best policy. Especially if you’re a bully. There are way too many factors to consider before you spew out what you claim is just the truth and then sheepishly apologize with “I’m sorry, but you want me to be honest, don’t you?” Sly move…Self4 min readSelf4 min read
Published in The Land of the Forgotten·Jul 12, 2022Member-only“Don’t Take It Personally”, They SayBut of course, you will. — You’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve even said it. But is anyone really not taking it personally? I hesitate to ever say those words. To me, if it occurs to you that someone might take something to heart, then they probably will. So save it. In The Four Agreements, one of…Life Lessons3 min readLife Lessons3 min read
Published in Change Your Mind Change Your Life·Jul 10, 2022Member-onlyWhen Your Day-To-Day Stops Being FunWhat to do when you’re stuck in monotony and it’s bringing you down. — Mark Twain: “Do something every day that you don’t want to do; this is the golden rule of acquiring the habit of doing your duty without pain.” Creating habits is all the rage. But if you’re stuck in a state of monotony, that won’t get you off the couch to…Life Lessons5 min readLife Lessons5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Jul 7, 2022Member-only7 Subtle Precursors To Burn OutRecognize them before it’s too late. — There’s such a thing as being too busy. Firing on all cylinders day after day will take its toll and before you know it, you’ll not only wear out, but it can actually change you. You need balance. Burnout in life happens when there is a lack of balance between…Life6 min readLife6 min read
Published in Change Your Mind Change Your Life·Jun 11, 2022Member-only12 Quippy One-Liners That Will Help You Get Through Almost AnythingNo matter how much you dread it. — Like most people, I’ve had to stare down a few things I’ve dreaded doing. The kind of thing that makes you want to bury your head under the covers and hide, while simultaneously coming up with the perfect excuse to stay there. “Do I have a fever?” “I think my…Life6 min readLife6 min read
Published in ILLUMINATION·Jun 8, 2022Member-only5 Creepily Easy Ways To Live a Boss LifeHacks that will put you in the driver’s seat. — No matter how much it seems like I’m in control of my life, there are times when I feel victimized and taken advantage of as if I’m a mere spectator. Out of the blue, I feel controlled, chained, shackled to a life not of my choosing, and that the world…Life Lessons5 min readLife Lessons5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Jun 7, 2022Member-onlyHandling Disagreements Like A ChampSilence isn’t the only way to maintain peace. — As a person that is laser-focused on keeping the peace, disagreements can be anxiety-inducing. I try to avoid them at all costs. But as I’ve come to learn, that’s not the way to keep the peace. …Life6 min readLife6 min read
Published in Change Your Mind Change Your Life·Jun 5, 2022Member-onlyYou Don’t Have to Get Caught up in The NegativeEven though it may be your go-to emotion. — We remember the bad stuff in our lives as if it were burned into our souls. The good stuff? Not so much. Even if there are more positives than negatives, we seem to be much more focused on what could go wrong in any given situation, or on assuming the…Self Improvement5 min readSelf Improvement5 min read
