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Five Reasons Why Friction Means You Give a F***
Most people do everything they can to avoid conflict. It’s disruptive, can cause harm, hurt someone, or even just ruin the day.
While there are those that thrive on being the litigators of the world, treating argumentative conversations and probing questions as a sport, that sort of interaction is definitely not for everyone.
I avoid conflict like the plague.
That’s because I have a problem with a little thing called insecurity. For some reason, conflict has translated to permanent problems or loss, and I am not sure why. I have decided to embrace it more as of late, and I think it will dramatically change things for me in a good way.
There is strong evidence that conflict with your partner can be the best thing you can do for your relationship.
In a study conducted by David Maxwell and Joseph Grenny, authors of Crucial Conversations-Tools for Talking when Stakes are High, couples who engage in healthy conflict are 10 times more likely to have a happy relationship than those who don’t. That seems to run counter to everything most people spend their lives believing.
Here’s why it’s a good thing:
