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One Thing That Can Help Your Relationship.
I’m a believer that some of the most complicated situations can be solved with simple solutions. And though I believe we genuinely want to solve issues, we also tend to overcomplicate things.
But there is one fix that would make a huge impact on every relationship in our lives, but it’s so easy that it just isn’t done.
Active listening is that fix.
Sure, you think you’re listening, but those things you are doing while you’re listening, prove otherwise. By definition, to be actively listening you need to be completely attentive and not just hearing the words, but concentrating and understanding the point that is being made.
In other words, listening for meaning. So, don’t be preparing your rebuttal or getting defensive. Hear the whole thing, exactly how it is being presented.
Life Coach-pro tip 1: Your body language is important here. Lean in rather than away from the person, look at them, not around the room, and nod when you feel you are really understanding their story. Don’t sit there like a stiff. Uncross those arms too. That just says you’re closed for business.
Life Coach-pro tip 2: No matter what buzz, ding, or vibration you hear, whether yours or…
